Tips for Terrific Thanksgiving Celebrations, Part 3: 7 Tips for the Vegan Hosting Meat Eaters

If you’re a vegan cook having omni guests over for Thanksgiving, it can be a bit worrisome to wonder if they’re going to pre-judge the food before they’ve even walked in the door. For omnivores traversing the path of a vegan-only meal for the first time, dining with vegans — especially for a big holiday like Thanksgiving –- can provoke feelings of trepidation. They may be asking: “What on earth are they going to feed us? How’s it going to taste? Will I starve?”  You as the vegan host want everyone to have a good time and enjoy the delicious food, so, here are a few tips for making sure that happens.

  1. Ask guests about food restrictions or dietary preferences. Just as you’d want them to be aware of your special needs, be sure to ask them about theirs.
  2. Make dishes you KNOW omnis will find delicious and enjoyable. You can’t please everyone’s palate, but a special day like Thanksgiving is not the time to experiment with something new.
  3. Consider providing a faux turkey entree AND other entrees. Tofurky and other faux meats are often either love ’em or hate ’em kinds of foods; don’t assume that your omni guests will find them as tantalizing as you do. However, if your omni friends have a major attachment to a turkey as the center point of the holiday, they may be pleasantly surprised to try one of the faux options.
  4. Be sure to include some traditional favorites. If your omni guests find some of the foods that they’re “used to” at your Thanksgiving feast (mashed potatoes, pies, cranberry something or other, etc.), it may help them to feel more relaxed about trying vegan dishes.
  5. Spend some time on the ambiance. You don’t have to create a centerpiece reproduction of the “First Thanksgiving” a la Martha Stewart, but some natural decorations that evoke thoughts of harvest, and a well-laid table can show them you’re serious about having a good time.
  6. Refrain from comments about people who are serving animals and/or their products for Thanksgiving (“Thank you, Creator, that we can all come together and not have to endure looking at some poor tortured creature.”) Make your omni guests feel just as welcomed and appreciated as your veg friends.
  7. Relax. If you’ve done your best to provide tasty food and a good time, the rest is up to them.

~ Marsha


Tips for Terrific Thanksgiving Celebrations, Part 2: 9 Tips for the Vegetarian Guest

Sometimes enjoying holiday meals with both omnivores and vegetarians in attendance can be as trying as a toddler birthday party when Pokey the Clown is a no-show and the dog threw up cake in your shoe. Fortunately many people have put time and thought into this very issue, and there are plenty of helpful tips available to ensure a smooth and satisfying celebration. Here’s part 2 of a multi-part series on successful tips for Thanksgivings when the veg and non-veg mix it up.

When you’re a vegan invited to Thanksgiving dinner at the home of someone you don’t know well (or maybe even someone you do know well), one of the main questions bouncing around in your brain are: “Will there be anything I can eat besides a limp piece of lettuce and some plain bread?” and “Is everyone going to be treating me like I have cooties?” If you’re proactive and considerate, you’ll have nothing to fear. Make use of these


  1. Tell your host as far in advance as possible about your dietary needs. Be specific.
  2. Have plenty of ideas to suggest to your host for both traditional dishes and not-so-traditional options, and make sure that your suggestions are reliably tasty to omnivores. The last thing you want is one bad experience of veg food that will color people’s opinions for a lifetime.
  3. Offer to help plan the menu and prepare some veggie dishes. They’ll welcome your tried and true fancy fare. (Make sure you don’t experiment with a new recipe that omnivores haven’t yet raved over.)
  4. Be sure you’re familiar with those substitutions that veganize any dish (examples: egg replacer, non-hydrogenated margarine, non-dairy ice creams, cheeses and milks, etc.). That way, when you’re host says “But we ALWAYS have Aunt Cici’s sweet potato pie!” you can whip out those quick and easy minor adjustments that will keep everyone happy and overfed.
  5. If cooking isn’t your thing, check out the deli at your local natural foods store. There are often tasty veg options (though the prices can be a little stomach-lurching). Or, pick up some fresh fruit and make a fruit salad, or drop by the bakery and pick up some fresh-baked bread and specialty vegan butters or jams.
  6. If you’re concerned there won’t be anything you can eat, eat something ahead of time. You can always nibble on the bread or sample the salad, or just focus on the good company. (It’s best to have a little something on your plate so that people aren’t distracted by the fact that you’re not eating/not eating much.) You can also bring a few snacks (fresh veggies, veggie turkey deli slices, etc.), that will blend in with the other foods and put those on your plate to munch on.
  7. Limit your expectations. Even though veg food is incredibly tasty, it can be scary cooking differently than you’re used to. And, as vegans know, many people are misinformed about what “veg” means. So, don’t expect a 9-course meal. Appreciate that your host is trying. (And remember, that if you’ve communicated clearly — well in advance, and you’re bringing multiple veg dishes, you should be able to look forward to a good time.)
  8. Unless asked, keep your reasons for being vegetarian to yourself. Keep any discussion about your “veg-ness” minimal and positive. A holiday occasion isn’t the time to lecture others or to call attention to the poor tortured, slaughtered creatures being served.
  9. Fair or not, all vegetarians may be judged by your behavior. As author Tiffany Reslor says, “Being a gracious guest reflects well on all vegetarians.” So, practice your best compassionate communication skills and don’t keep looking at the giant dead thing in the middle of the table and rolling your eyes or making disgusted sounds.

~ Marsha

Tips for Terrific Thanksgiving Celebrations, Part 1: 12 Tips for the Meat Eater Having Vegetarians (Over) for Dinner

cranberrysauceSometimes enjoying holiday meals with both omnivores and vegetarians in attendance can be as trying as a toddler birthday party when Pokey the Clown is a no-show and the dog threw up cake in your shoe. Fortunately many people have put time and thought into this very issue, and there are plenty of helpful tips available to ensure a smooth and satisfying celebration. Here’s part 1 of a multi-part series on successful tips for Thanksgivings when the veg and non-veg mix it up.


  1. Don’t assume. Ask your veg guests (VG) what kind of vegetarians they are (ovo-lacto, vegan, raw, etc.) so that there’s no confusion, and find out what they will and won’t eat. Vegetarianism means something different to everyone. (Note: The standard definition of vegetarian is someone who chooses not to eat animals of any kind; the standard definition of vegan is someone who chooses not to eat animals or their products – including things like honey, whey, gelatin, and such.)
  2. Vegetarians like flavor just as much as the next person. Don’t assume “vegetarian” means they don’t eat sugar or flour or important stuff like cake and pie. Good vegetarian fare is just as tasty and decadent as its carnivorous counterparts.
  3. When planning the meal, ask your VG for suggestions. They’ll usually have plenty of ideas. In fact, ask your VG to prepare and bring a veg dish or two. Or, if veg cooking/baking sounds too overwhelming, ask your VG to take on a larger helping role.
  4. Don’t assume a salad is a meal. Rabbits might be able to subsist on greens, but your VG will appreciate a more substantial offering. Provide an appropriate entrée, or at least several filling side dishes, such as breads, fresh fruits and veggies, vegan mashed potatoes, squash, cranberry sauce, etc. You’ll find plenty of veg cookbooks at the library, and veg-friendly recipes on the Internet.
  5. Do simple substitutions. Use veg broth instead of meat broth; soy or almond milk instead of dairy; organic non-GMO margarine instead of butter, and so on.
  6. If you don’t want to go totally veg with your meal, split portions of dishes so that part are vegan. Make some of that sweet potato dish without marshmallows; stuff only half the stuffing with meat; brush the rolls with olive oil instead of butter.
  7. Use separate utensils and cookware for the veg foods, and beware of cross-contamination. Your VG will appreciate it.
  8. If you don’t feel like cooking extra stuff, consider ordering a veg feast from a natural foods store, or picking up some tasty veg dishes at their deli. As long as the food is tasty and sufficient, everyone will be happy.
  9. Make place cards for each dish, labeling appropriately (Vegetarian, Vegan, Raw, Meat, etc.), and arrange the dishes with the cards so that there’s no confusion. As many people have food allergies of one sort or another, you may want to include a list of ingredients, or at least those—such as nuts, dairy, wheat, soy—that are mostly likely to be allergens.
  10. Start a new tradition. Thanksgiving doesn’t have to mean turkey & all the traditional trimmings (after all, they didn’t serve turkey at the First Thanksgiving!). Try something a little different. How about a buffet? How about a meal made up of a bunch of little appetizers? How about Indian/Ethiopian/Thai? How about pizza?
  11. Save your debates for another occasion. Getting together is about love and friendship and sharing and enjoying each others’ company—not whether you agree or disagree with someone’s philosophy or eating habits. Use this occasion to celebrate.
  12. Don’t worry about mistakes. Your veg guests will appreciate your genuine efforts (and if they don’t, then they should).


How to Accommodate Your Vegetarian and Vegan Guests at Thanksgiving.” Vegetarian Food

How to Have a Vegetarian Thanksgiving.” Mahalo.

~ Marsha